A True Story!!!
Was actually wondering whether I should blog what happened yesterday. Finally, decides to blog the incident. Hopefully, it will be taken in the correct spirit that we could learn from the incident.
Yesterday, I called al parent who had left message for us to call her back. It was saddening to hear what she had requested. So this is what transpired.
The mother was requesting that we help her to “handle” her son. Her son was playing computer games every night and at times, goes without any sleep. She says that she is afraid that her son health may be harmed. Then she continues to add that her son had no respect for her and at times raised his voice at her. She also claimed that he despised her for not being rich. It goes on and on… and something she added later raise an “alarm” bell I me. She ask me to ask her son to work part time so that he could give her some money, instead of she having to always provide for her son.
The only thing I promised her is that I will have a talk with her son and see what is the outcome and if I failed then I will refer her son to the school counselor.
2 things strike me in this incident. First, if what she says is true, then this son ought to be smack!!! No matter what, no child should show any disrespect to their parent. Although, at times, kids temper cannot be control, but it should never be a common incident. Even if you do not come from a rich family, there is no shame at all being poor. As long as you have the basic need met, then all the extras are what I called “bonus”. Do learn to be contented with what you have. Try not comparing with your friends, classmates etc as it will only make you more miserable. Too many of today youngster is living way beyond their means.
The second issue is the call of the mother for us to ask her son to work so that he will provide her with some money. To me, this sound terrible and unacceptable. How could a mother ask the son to work so that she could get some money from him and while the son is still in school? As a parent myself, I would like my kids to concentrate fully on their studies. The parent is both working and I see no reason why they need their son to be working so that she could get some money. From her conversation, their family is in no need of money, even though they are not rich. But sad to says, this mother was more keen on her son making money instead of seeing her son progress in his studies.
Coming to conclusion, the son is too influence by his peers that he sees the need to be on par with his friends. To all my young readers, please do not fall into the same trap. Learn to be contended with what you have and who you are and you will not be so miserable. Secondly, if you ever be a parent, do not be so materialistic. Do not seek “benefits” from your children. Children are meant to be a source of joy, not a source of your “need”. So with this I will end my blog.
Yesterday, I called al parent who had left message for us to call her back. It was saddening to hear what she had requested. So this is what transpired.
The mother was requesting that we help her to “handle” her son. Her son was playing computer games every night and at times, goes without any sleep. She says that she is afraid that her son health may be harmed. Then she continues to add that her son had no respect for her and at times raised his voice at her. She also claimed that he despised her for not being rich. It goes on and on… and something she added later raise an “alarm” bell I me. She ask me to ask her son to work part time so that he could give her some money, instead of she having to always provide for her son.
The only thing I promised her is that I will have a talk with her son and see what is the outcome and if I failed then I will refer her son to the school counselor.
2 things strike me in this incident. First, if what she says is true, then this son ought to be smack!!! No matter what, no child should show any disrespect to their parent. Although, at times, kids temper cannot be control, but it should never be a common incident. Even if you do not come from a rich family, there is no shame at all being poor. As long as you have the basic need met, then all the extras are what I called “bonus”. Do learn to be contented with what you have. Try not comparing with your friends, classmates etc as it will only make you more miserable. Too many of today youngster is living way beyond their means.
The second issue is the call of the mother for us to ask her son to work so that he will provide her with some money. To me, this sound terrible and unacceptable. How could a mother ask the son to work so that she could get some money from him and while the son is still in school? As a parent myself, I would like my kids to concentrate fully on their studies. The parent is both working and I see no reason why they need their son to be working so that she could get some money. From her conversation, their family is in no need of money, even though they are not rich. But sad to says, this mother was more keen on her son making money instead of seeing her son progress in his studies.
Coming to conclusion, the son is too influence by his peers that he sees the need to be on par with his friends. To all my young readers, please do not fall into the same trap. Learn to be contended with what you have and who you are and you will not be so miserable. Secondly, if you ever be a parent, do not be so materialistic. Do not seek “benefits” from your children. Children are meant to be a source of joy, not a source of your “need”. So with this I will end my blog.
posted by Sebastian Chu at 9:26 AM
